New Years is coming up and we often use this time to tell ourselves, “New Year, New Me”. Here’s a list of “relationship must-haves” that will take your relationships on another level, making you both happier in this coming New Year. Enjoy!
- Shared Goal of Trusting God with Our Relationship
- Without fully knowing what our future holds, cultivating faith in God humbles us to get out of our own ways and enjoy our relationship for what it is
- “Because of her, I know God” – as in, God answered my prayers of finding the right person for me the more I trusted in the process of improving each day and in Him
- Consistency in Feelings (and action) – do not lose sight why you fell in love with her in the first place
- Being consistent in your feelings and taking action develops trust in the relationship as she knows you can be relied on
- Not losing sight why you fell in love with her makes sure you remain consistent in those feelings, and gives you a place to redirect your moral compass in those times you may fall astray
- Common Goal and Timeline When to Meet Relationship Goals
- Continue getting better each day with a purpose as to why you are in this relationship (which is because “you want to be happy”)
- Having a common goal to work together as a team takes the relationship on a deeper level in attraction and trust
- Effective Communication – Text each day, talk/facetime 2x/week, see each other at least 1x/week
- Show vulnerability. Vulnerability is the key to winning people’s hearts, and is what allows us to connect with others beyond the surface
- Spend Quality Time with Her – It does not matter so much how long you both have been together as a couple
- What matters more is the quality of time spent together (and the impact that quality time has on the relationship)
- Corniness and Sense of Humor
- I promised to take her to the happiest place on Earth, Disneyland
- She replied, “The happiest place on Earth is in your arms.”
- (cue the “Awwwww”)
- Forgiveness
- Be ready to forgive each other – accepting each other for who we are is a core tenet of having thriving relationships
- As we’d say in the prayer group community, “I love you, I forgive you, please forgive me.”
- Lead with Strength
- Not only physical strength that is filled with testosterone (and not with soy)
- But also mental strength; when you see something wrong in what she is doing, be courageous in speaking up and have a mature conversation to better understand each other
- Working together as a team in tough conversations is where both of us build deeper trust and appreciation for each other
- Patience
- Don’t yell at your lady and walk out the room in an argument – calmly let your thoughts be heard and listen to her
- On a lighter note, women are goofy by nature, so being patient in her goofiness goes a long way in accepting them for who they are
- Thoughtfulness
- Remembering her schedule and details (what food and music she likes/dislikes), are key to letting her know how special she is
- Surprise her with gifts
- Have Confidence
- Be a man who doesn’t put women on pedestals and isn’t afraid to walk away
- Special Note for Men: There are more women looking for a good man than men looking for a good woman, so don’t feel like there’s a shortage of women out there. Of course, if you find that special woman in your life, fight for her 🙂
- Have results on the table in your career and life experiences to help build your confidence and as a springboard towards a thriving relationship
- Be a man who doesn’t put women on pedestals and isn’t afraid to walk away
- …Mixed with the Right Amount of Humility
- Be a man who doesn’t take that confidence too far to the point of cockiness
- Rather, be a man who confidently leads the relationship with love
- Share Experiences Together – do activities together, such as working through a challenge
- One experience she and I shared was her driving on the freeway, since she is uncomfortable doing so
- We became even more attracted to each other after she faced her fears (with my encouragement 😉 )
- Own Life Experiences You’d Happily Do Alone – introduce those experiences to her
- Women are attracted to ambition and want to be part of the experience that is your life
- Showing women experiences is a pillar of what game is
- She proofreads the Noy Sauce posts 😉
- Noy Sauce’s experiences shared with women that he’d happily do alone include:
- Writing meaningful content
- Having a consistent prayer life
- Traveling to new places and sharing conversations with random people
- Attending concerts and events
- Women are attracted to ambition and want to be part of the experience that is your life
- Strong Will to Live
- It’s hard to live how we want to live and some of us may not have been privileged as others growing up, such as having a father, supportive family and friends, and a mentor
- We might have made a few mistakes in our lives, giving us a bleak outlook on the future
- BUT, that shouldn’t deter us from having a strong will to live – having this will to live gives us optimism that the future will be bright as long as we work towards it
- This optimism breeds happiness, which trickles down to our relationships, making our relationships that much better
Applying one or two of these lessons consistently will improve the quality of your life and relationships. You got this!